I get most of my random blog traffic from people looking for characteristics of certain age groups, largely in part from posting the Gesell Institute lists of childhood characteristics. These are the standards of behavior that we use as benchmarks in the program that I work for (at? with? under? in? I never know which preposition goes in there. These days "around", "against", "beyond", "despite", "through", "upon", and "without" seem more to be the case. And I know that it should be 'for which I work', but then I couldn't go on this aside as easily. Don't ever end your sentences with a preposition, kiddies. It makes you sound like my neighbors.)
Without further ado:
The characteristics of the three and a half year old.
*enters a period of marked insecurity and disequilibrium.
*can be extremely uncoordinated motorwise: stumbles, falls, may fear heights, hands my tremble, cannot draw firmly
*may become uncoordinated language-wise: stuttering (especially if previously highly verbal)-- it is as if the mouth can no longer keep up with the mind. It is important for parents to stay relaxed, accepting, and to not make a big deal over speech struggles in order to prevent a later problem
*may complain cannot see right or hear right; may cross eyes frequently
*uses tensional outlets more frequently: nailbiting, eye blinking, nosepicking, facial tics, masturbation, thumb sucking my increase
*has tremendous difficulties in relations with others
*is emotionally insecure which leads to increased whining, crying frequent questioning ("Do you love me?") and frequent complaints ("You don't love me!")
*may say "I hate you" when frustrated by limits
*is extremely demanding of adults : may demand "don't look", "don't talk", "don't laugh"
*is insecure with friends: demands all their attention, shows emotional extremes (shy one minute, over-bearing the next)
So, he's normal. Now what? Ack. This is my son to a tee. All these things? Yes.
ALL of them. Every single one.
I need a drink.
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And that's why there's the Terrible 2's and the Mofo 3's. We're getting into the Mofo 3's here ourselves.
I need a drink thinking about what's in store for me.
No offense, but if you didn't know what you were reading, and there were no references to "adults," that sounds like a description of something out of the DSM.
I found three to be a very very difficult age as a mother. I am sure my three year old didn't mind so much. But yeah, the drinks help. It is a wonderful age during those times they are just so three and lovely. Half the year is over, so try to enjoy the other half. Four will come too soon! Jake is a wonderful threeandhalf year old!!
I missed the twos and threes with my wife's son. I didn't arrive on the scene until he was 7.
Watching my latest niece, I can't help thinking I got away lightly....
check! check! check! check! check on the drink!
3.5 can't last forever. i bet four has loads more alcohol inspiring behavior.
just wait, it gets better!
Yeah, but he'll grow out of that, too. Of course then he'll be a surly adolescent, then there are the sullen teenage years... Hm. Maybe you're in deep trouble. Naaah. You can handle it. I did.
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This is very very much my 3.5 nearly 4 year old.... particularly the 'I hate you' and the shy one minute and totally overbearing the next. I fear the teenage years with her. I thought it was partially the middle kid setting that was making her act like this but maybe it's just the age (and maybe being a little Scorpio) we are destined to clash.
Yeah, can't wait.
You know, I always think that my kids are all unique, and nobody understands what I deal with over my crazy one-of-a-kind kids. Then I find a list somewhere (not unlike yours) of the characteristics of kids my age and I realize - - I AM NOT ALONE. lol.
It's nice to know that you're doing the right stuff!
You forgot "high degree of snuggleability". Oh, and "Increasingly strains caregiver's financial situation".
Oh dear God. I've regressed.
You just described me to a T. And I sooo thought I was closer to six.
Well, at least you can still control them with things like monsters and food.
Mine's doing everything but the stuttering.
Hey thanks- this list is just what I needed right now..we are looking at a child we are concerned about at my preschool
Sounds like me when I was drinking.
OMG! I am going through my second childhood!
Three sucks.
BUT ANYWAY...I was ranting, absolutely ranting, about how nobody knows which prepositions go anywhere anymore just today at lunch.
I love nerd synchronicity.
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