What? I can tell by your face that you've never worked in the restaurant business.
When you work 90 hours a week and drink the rest and sleep from time to time, it doesn't leave much time for normal socialization and getting out there and meeting people.
And no, I didn't, because I was married.
A married waitress.
It's like an oxymoron in this town.
I was practically famous for it.
Plus he's not my type, but he's not anyone's type really, but that didn't stop anything.
I don't know what he had to offer, but people were buying.
Anyway. I worked with this guy who dated like seriously all my friends and really tore them up. Really. And when he was done tearing one up he moved to the next and tore her down and when he was done with her he moved on and did it again. And we all watched it happen and no one did anything about it.
Weird.
I'm guessing that kind of stuff doesn't happen much in the real world.
Whatever that is.
I don't even know what this is about, why I'm writing this down, why I'm bringing this up, but sometimes I think about that and wonder how and why it happened.
Was it something in the girls?
Was it something in him?
Was it something in the air?
Did someone lace the drinks? The drugs? The days?
Dysfunction, denial, desperation, destitution, deception, depression, distress, dependency, desire.
Those D words can get you down.
The girls are all strong. Were all strong.
Now they are all married, or about to be.
Mothers.
Teachers.
Bankers.
Picket fencers, now, all of them.
Moved on and away and above.
Far far away.
Too far away.
And they're coming back,
driving flying rushing back
to Philadelphia.
tomorrow and the next day
to visit.
to eat.
to drink.
to dance
to laugh.
to remember.
to gather.
Together.
Funny what wins out in life, no?
Here's to my fatgirls.
I can't wait to see you all in the same room.
I can't wait to hear your laugh bounce around and around in your wine glass
Your eyes dance above the rim.
The diamonds in your rings catch the flames from the open kitchen.
Your fingers dip in the candle wax as it burns down into nothing.
Numbed from the booze and conversation and past.
Your ears perk at the mention of people you forgot about.
Your head shake at the people you didn't.
Your throat clench at the people you want to.
I want to watch you retake your town.
Your heels catch in the brick sidewalks of University City.
Your toes slide over the gingko that plagues Society Hill.
Your purse swing as you cross Rittenhouse.
Your knees buckle as you sneak a kiss from a horse in Olde City.
Your jacket blow open in that wind that tears around City Hall.
Your scarf stand out against the silvergrey water in the Schullkyll.
As you look over your shoulder to ask us all...
"where are we going next?"


15 degrees {comments}:
Aren't you going to track this guy down so you can all terrorize him? I'm sure he still works at the same restaurant; guys like that never make it very far.
It is always interesting to see what women say when they reconnect with guys they have "been with" in the past. It would be interesting to see what he would say to these women now.
Anything is possible when it comes to dating and anything is a big word.
Should be fun... lots of women on men bashing of at least that one guy.
Douchebag deserves a visit from Uncle Guido, if you know what I mean...
Hey listen. I seriously want to be in the fatgirls club. Are you accepting new members?
Don't your friends talk to each other? What's the point in having friends if they can't warn you about the loser who just asked you out?!
Your post leaves me craving the "Fat Girl Sampler."
I think this guy got his in the end. He's long gone from the bar we worked at. And from everyone's life.
If he comes up in conversation, which he rarely does, it is fleeting.
And yes, everyone talks. But that's not what it's about, really. And he wasn't abusive, in the traditional sense of the word. Or mean. Or whatever. He was just, well, him.
Remember, the restaurant world is different than the real world. You have to live it to know it I guess.
Where's all my waitress readers at? 4pm, so they are either sleeping or serving or they are no longer waitresses so they are studying or working. I know they'll get it when they get around to the internets.
He was just him and tried to stake a claim in everyone that worked there. Luckily, some of us weren't buying it.
Have fun!! I'm so jealous. I will be holed up here in my infected little area of the world, praying that the coughing and crying and snotting stops soon.
oh my im sensing a can of worms about to open....
You're quite the poet. Very nice.
Those guys really end up imploding on themselves. Too bad they get off on hurting people until that happens. Glad you stayed above the fray.
Enjoy your time with your friends-- it sounds great!
Have fun!
love this!!
Someone's going OUT this weekend!
There is always one guy like this in every group of friends. The one that has a way with women, but no one knows why. Ours used to have a bad heroin habit. Like, sucked dick for heroin. He is gorgeous and clean now. A professor and an author. He has a way of making you feel special and wanted when you talk to him. I see through this...been down this path before-which makes him come after me with even more effort. I like the attention, but would much rather hear about how he became clean and his stories from when he wasn't. Its a life I never lived. I never had friends that were that addicted to anything. He intriques me, but not enough to climb into bed with him.
I hope you and the fatgirls have a blast...I will be with my fatgirls this weekend taking over the Kent campus, dressed in ridiculous halloween costumes, being loud, drinking, and being fabulous!
i am 99.9% sure i know who you are talking about & I never understood it either. I am super jealous I am not there too.
p.s. sorry i havent commented in a while. I read everyone of your posts but is usually from my iphone & it is a pita to comment from there. love ya xoxo
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