Comments on fever: that will be 5 cents, please

I disagree that you can't have shame without g...

2011-12-14T17:46:56.637-05:00

I disagree that you can't have shame without guilt. I had a girl steal my mom's diamond engagement ring while she and her baby were living with us in high school. I know how shitty it feels. And I felt shame. Like I was shitty and worthless and that's why she did it. I didn't feel guilt.
I'm SUPER pissed someone stole your ring. I hope that's not what ended Wednesday Spaghetti, which I was thinking of the other day by the way.

holy crap all of a sudden-like I'm back in tre...

2011-12-14T02:54:24.563-05:00

holy crap all of a sudden-like I'm back in treatment!

Resentment - is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. It can eat you alive from the inside out....sigh.

I drank at my Angers that had festered into Resentments. Mostly. Occasionally tried to chemically alter them into something else so that I didn't have to feel like such an effing shit heap.

Still a daily struggle.

Thanks for the posting this. You so Rock, my friend!

Moving at your own pace can be exhausting. Love to...

2011-12-13T21:41:13.976-05:00

Moving at your own pace can be exhausting.
Love to you from me.

Great post. I think about all of these stages deal...

2011-12-13T09:38:24.268-05:00

Great post. I think about all of these stages dealing with just about any emotional issue in life. I'm having some problems with a good friend of mine and am re-evaluating the friendship. I've been going through all of these stages and have to remind myself of where the feelings are coming from. The tough part is moving through it and letting go.

Anger and resentment. I'm having my a-ha momen...

2011-12-13T01:16:58.426-05:00

Anger and resentment. I'm having my a-ha moment right now. It's all about the resentment for me.

Yes. The time of year often dictates what stage I&...

2011-12-12T22:24:07.273-05:00

Yes. The time of year often dictates what stage I'm in, and about what issue. Some seasons, months, days, trigger events more than others. It gets more into acceptance as the years go by. Therapists and pills probably make that happen faster if you can find one that's not douchey.

I owe you Five cents!

2011-12-12T19:15:13.436-05:00

I owe you Five cents!

You're so wonderful. Thank you for being!

2011-12-12T18:57:21.769-05:00

You're so wonderful. Thank you for being!

It took me two years (TWO!) to finally hit the ang...

2011-12-12T18:34:53.376-05:00

It took me two years (TWO!) to finally hit the anger stage after a loved one died too young. And boy did I ever get really stinking mad!...at myself mostly. *laughing*

Grief is made even tougher sometimes by how uncomfortable it makes the people around us feel.

"And it doesn't ever seem to be honored so we bottle it up and let it fester and turn into something that affects us deeper than it was ever meant to. It can change who we are. How we see ourselves." So beautifully put. It's true.